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Thursday, June 14, 2012

Is It Love, Obsession, Or Just Crazily In Love?

"Infatuation is a downfall
Leaves to believe, where there is nothing to believe at all-
Love was calling, but it wasn't there at all
Holding out for a lost cause, that cannot be won at all-
Times that where golden, but you lost he's affection
Sadden by love that has folded
With a future to tell a tall-tale of obsession that was not so golden
Someone has to prove a point, when the heart is broken
So, don't blame anyone
When your ex-lover plays with you life, when you toyed with emotions
Hey some things comes with a price" .... ~Nailah D'arcy~
Is it a crime of passion, unrequited love, stalking, fatal attraction, sexual obsession or maybe it's just crazily in love?
I guess love can be tricky, but does it has to be trickery? 
I am pretty sure we all seen our far share of "Fatal Attraction" in films, and the news, and maybe in our own lives.....
The question is when, and why did a relationship, or infatuation become so dangerous?

Could it be possible they were lead on to continue with hope, or 
these desperate lovers only saw what they wanted to see.
 It's common sense, whenever the "crazily in love" come into play, things can become more touchy.. 
But, when does it stop being love, and more of an obsession?

Define Fatal Attraction?
"a situation where a spurned partner in a romance turns vengeful, often murderous."
Dictionary.reference.com
 "Intimacy-seeking stalkers often have delusional disorders involving erotomanic delusions. With rejected stalkers, the continual clinging to a relationship of an inadequate or dependent person couples with the entitlement of the narcissistic personality, and the persistent jealousy of the paranoid personality. In contrast, resentful stalkers demonstrate an almost “pure culture of persecution,” with delusional disorders of the paranoid type, paranoid personalities, and paranoid schizophrenia." Wikipedia.org
How Far Can Obsession Go? Is all Obsession bad? Or Just Human Nature?
Firstly, I do not believe an obsession is bad. Sometimes obsession may bring reality to the forefront, and may transform people over time. Once they really look over the facts etc. 
Tom Cruise 
as 
David Aames
In "Vanilla Sky"
He had to learn to let go.
It may be that was just another lesson of life, maybe it's just human nature we all get obsessed over a lover, that brought us back to reality somehow. To see the difference between what we want, and what we need. 
I call it the battle between "Lust, Love & Infatuation". 
Eventually, we will see it was not love, just the passing fancy that our minds were telling us it was love, instead of our hearts.


But, as the news constantly reminds us it can go left, real fast. 
Sandra Bullock as Mary Horowitz
In "All about Steve"
Mary learned to 
stay true to herself

Never change for anyone.
I cannot say who to blame. I know toying with people's affection can be very dangerous; Also, harming someone  emotional/physical can never bring requited love.
Albeit, could it be we all go through obsession over a lover? but how far are some willing to go to prove a point, when our hearts have been broken......


Why is that "Fatal Attraction" Is Always Linked To Women?
"They say that behind every great man, there is a great woman. Well I say behind every disaster a woman goes through, there is man in front of it."-Nailah D'arcy 
Lady Caroline Lamb
was obsessed with Lord Byron 
 "Women are most often stereotyped as the one prone to stalking their partners. Any signs of someone stalking are not healthy. It is another telltale sign that a person may be unstable. Love can drive some people to do desperate acts but when done overboard, person guilty could well be on his way to psycho territory."Gmmurgirl.hubpages.com
I've notice that a lot of headlines for Fatal Attraction always seems to stem to women,  which has produced shows like "snapped", and films such as "Obsessed"," Fatal Attraction" & "The Crush". 
Ali Larter as Lisa Sheridan
In "Obsessed"
A woman ready to die, for a man she hardly knew.
Why is that that women are, more prone to stalking, and obsession. Are we women more invested in the love department than men? or does jealousy, and emotions get a hold over us, in a dangerous way?
 "when a woman sues for love, to reject and refuse is a distressing part for a man to play, and vice versa " Freud
Although, men can get away with somewhat of a stalking behavior which you may call 'persistence', but if a woman was to do the same actions, she would be called a stalker?
I'm not saying that men are not prone to stalking either; anyone can fall prey to fatal attraction.
Mark Wahlberg as David McCall
In "Fear"
In his case, it was just pure insanity.
Infatuation had to start somewhere. Everything is not always just unrequited love... when pride has been shattered. Some individuals will let go, or will want revenge at any price.  

Fatal attraction will always be linked to woman. Everyone has there own hypothesis as to why this problem occur. 
Such as: personality disorder, substance dependence, paranoia disorders etc; it can differentiated. 
However, playing games with emotions can drive any man/woman crazy. Obsession can become irrational when it's not properly managed. However, it takes two too tango!

Words Only of Love, Not Wisdom!
I will say this, love can be a scary thing.
Love can go wrong, and can be wonderful. Love will not always end dangerously. 
Love can be enlightening, a challenge, & just taking a chance on faith.
Fatal Attraction, obsession, or just crazily in love. 
Whatever you want to call it.. 

Love should always be taken care off delicately. 
For some love can become dangerous very quickly.
In basic words don't do to others, what you would not like done to you... 
Because Karma is a bi***... lol

Amour Toujours
Nailah D'arcy

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